Dealing with death and family depression

I have been dealing with a flu bug for four days, a sleep medicine which is a depressant when it hits my insides and a weariness of unceasing family problems!  Yesterday was my limit and I blurted stuff out to anyone who might give me some peace!  Last night Harriett and Joan both called and said the same thing:  "You and your family have been on sadness overload!  You have had 8 deaths in five years and then dealt with the aftermath  of estates and legalities!  No one has escaped the pain!  Stop dwelling in the pain and seize joy wherever you can find it!"  And they added, ". Get over it by not talking to anyone about it!  Let it go!"  It's called acceptance!   And they are right!