Warning to Control Freaks! Back off from me!

 

  

 

I hate people who are "control freaks" like dog do-do!  They are pesky pondscum people who need to be locked up in a cell where they have no free will for a long season.   They suck the life out of people who have to deal with them and people who are needy!   And I have had to deal with two of them.   No wonder I hate the sight of them.  

 

In trying to deal with them, I have read the works of several expert therapists on the subject such as Mark Tyrell.   He gives five ways to deal with a "control freak":

 

l. Separate controlling behavior from the good stuff.   (Not a good step,  Did this, tried to remember their good qualities.   They got bad-er and bad-er!)

2. Stand your ground with the control freak by not arguing.  (This is good advice; the freaky one doesn't listen to anyone else anyway.)

3.  Use the "broken record" technique.  (Keep repeating what your stand is;  this will not help.)

4.  Use humor to manage the "control freak".  (Does not work;  Control freaks, by their nature, have no humor genes).

5.  Be prepared to walk away.  Let them control other people!   (Good, best advice!)

 

And that is exactly what I have done.  I tried;   I never conquered;  I couldn't laugh it off so I walked away from them!  My only solution that worked...for me!   Everybody knows these people and avoids them like the plague or tries to placate them.   I heard someone say to one of these people one time:  "Tell me, who died and made you God!"  Then the person got defensive (a mode that they quickly adopt when challenged.)   (When their advice goes bad, the control freak disavows it completely.)

 

There are times when you leave people to their own devices.   I run my life and I don't need any help from people who have been led to believe that they are brilliant, world-changing people.  They constantly try to dictate how you are supposed to act or feel.  Well, all you "control freaks" out there, keep making a shambles out of your life but you are not going to have this old lady to push around.  I've forgotten more about living than either of you will ever know!